Attraction from the Inside Out...

I will admit to being confused sometimes at the people I find most attractive. What amazes me is the seeming lack of consistency - there's no one particular personality or physical type that really gets me excited - although if I look closely, I have found clues to a common theme. More about that in a minute.

Recently I read this:

"The universal Law of Attraction states that we draw to us those people, events, and circumstances that match our inner state of being. In other words, we attract experiences that are consistent with our beliefs. If we believe that there is plenty of love in the world and we are worthy of giving and receiving that love, we will attract a different quality of relationships than someone who believes in scarcity or feels unworthy of happiness. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful, and fearful place, then eventually that will become our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soulmate is out there is a critical first step in the formula for manifesting him or her into your life." [Arielle Ford]

Well, dang it, that just makes so much sense. We mirror on the outside what we feel on the inside - and so the key to figuring out where the patterns come from in our relationship is found in our level of self-awareness.

Are my feelings chaotic, frustrated, focused on how "unworthy" I am? Do I focus on what I don't have rather than what I do? It all depends (and sometimes I have to remind myself that I sound like a broken record) on our worldview and our attitude. What we get is based on what we put out - and both what we get and what we put out are based on the status of our inner life.

So what can we do to clean this up? The answer, as it is with everything, is work to become more conscious. That's my magic bullet - consciousness. The awareness of ourselves and our maps, awareness of what kind of filters we use to view the world in a way not unlike awareness of the color of our sunglass lenses.

If we're not happy with our the external circumstances of our lives, perhaps it would be helpful to examine what beliefs and filters we are using to manifest and create whatever is happening. Not enough money? Unfulfilling relationships? Unsatisfying job or "career"? These are all external manifestations of our internal state. If we want to change our circumstances, we have to change the thinking that creates those circumstances.

There's a great AA/NA saying, "Think what you always think, and you'll get what you always got." Yet we continue thinking the same limiting thoughts, working in the same state of being miserable as our "set point" day in and day out.

Want to try something different? For the next nine days I am going to review some material I've used in a class series I taught called "Nine Principles of Conscious Living". Stay tuned.